The book you are reading for UNV 1010,
Habitudes, talks about how it is hard to stay close to everyone who was once a friend. The book recommends that you don't burn bridges. For this week's post, recall a time when you didn't burn a bridge and were glad that you didn't? Post a response by Monday, Oct. 16
I learned much on how to lead a successful life from the book Habitudes. One of the many helpful tips that the book provides is that one should never burn down any bridges. Today the expression means that one should not alienate former friends or discard second options that may seem unfavorable. I have preserved many bridges with people who I disagree with today on politics, philosophy, economics, etc and this has benefited me as I have been exposed to multiple perspectives that would not have been available to me otherwise. This is one of the many advantages of not "burning bridges" in your life.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend in high school and we got into argument .I said some hurt full things and he took it to heart . We had a small group of friends in a group chat and he turned them all against me .I hated him for that for like a month. Then he came to my birthday party and pretty much apologized so we made up. My cousin almost drowned and he saved her life .
ReplyDeleteDuring my senior season with my high school bowling team, the most influential coach I had resigned mid-season due to disagreements with the other head coach. This coach had made a huge difference in my bowling ability, turning me into the best bowler on the men's varsity team when I had almost no bowling experience coming in as a freshman. I stayed in touch with him and continued to go to him for coaching advice as well as advice when buying new bowling balls. When regionals rolled around at the end of the year, instead of coaching his daughter for the entirety of the competition, he too the time to give me advise even though it was no longer his job. His advice helped me place fourth in regionals, taking me to my first ever state tournament. He continued to help coach me there where I made the top sixteen cut, placing ninth, and losing in the first round. If I had not stayed in touch with him, I may not have become the bowler I am today as he continues to advise me to this day.
ReplyDeleteWhen I played JV lacrosse, me and my coach did not agree a lot on things. He would play kids over other kids who did not show up to practices. I was not to happy about decisions he made because I saw these kids working really hard at practice and trying to show my coach that they were there all the time and able to play and he would not even acknowledge them. This is a big bridge I had to overcome because I had to hold in what I was feeling because I was playing and didn't want to lose my position due to how I felt and what I thought. Even though I did not agree with my coach and he was very unfair to others on my team at times, but I held in everything because there was nothing I could do to change how he coached. These kids worked hard and showed up to every practice, but did not get hardly any playing time and I felt that was wrong.
ReplyDeleteI had a very similar group of friends throughout middle school and high school. By the time we graduated, we were almost the same exact friend group that we had started in middle school. However, a particular friend of ours always caused issues within our group. Whether it was over other friends we had, or an argument that began because of something we said, the fights were inevitable. We became annoyed very quickly, but didn’t have the heart to give up on her. Instead, we gave her space from time to time and advice when we thought our input was needed. Eventually we ended up only having a few arguments every now and then, and it seemed like everything was back to normal.
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ReplyDeleteI met one of my very best friend's in middle school, throughout middle school we remained very close friends. When it was time for us to attend high school we didn't go to the same high school which made our friendship a little difficult. We went from seeing each other everyday to once every couple of months because her and her family moved about an hour away from me. Since we began to build friendships with other people who went to our schools, we grew distant and sometimes we even fought over petty things. Until one day we sat down and talked to each other in person and realized that no one could replace either of us, we realized we weren't just best friends, we were sisters and no one could break that bond between us even if they tried. I was so happy after we sat down and had that conversation because if I were to lose a friend like her I have no clue what I would do. She is honestly the ying to my yang and will always be a sister to me.
ReplyDeleteFrom middle school to high school was a big jump for me, not very many of my friends went to the same high school I did and this made these relationships hard to keep up. Although it wasn't easy, I made a conscious effort not to burn the bridges in these relationships although it would have been easy. Some of the relationships fell apart and didn't last, these were the ones I let burn and didn't work on. The relationships i worked hard on keeping though really payed off and I have been able to keep some of the best friends I've ever made in my life which has made me a better person thanks to these people.
ReplyDeleteI have had the same group of friends almost since I was a little kid. The only time i can remember that i was glad i didn't burn a bridge was actually when I met my good friend Chris. The reason I say that is because my others friends always used to hangout with him when we were in about 1st grade, but I never actually became friends with him till about 4th grade. So I am just glad i never burned a bridge or never made fun of him , because then I would have never been friends with him like we are today.
ReplyDeleteGrowing up, I have had the same group of friends since preschool, and we did everything together. We were always on the same team in little league football and that brought us closer than ever. One year, I think it was 7th or 8th grade, right before the season started, a lot of trouble happened within my family, I quit football, and I started shutting everyone of my friends out. I didn't want to bring them into what I was going through and starting building a barricade around myself, and starting to burn the bridges to my best friends. Then, out of nowhere one of the kids that I've known since birth came over to my house and basically told me, him and all the other guys want to be there for me and my family. To me that was huge, because I was so close to shutting them out for good, to hear him say that they really cared about what was going on in my life, meant a lot to me. To this day, they're still my best friends and I couldn't have gotten through some of the tough times in my life without them.
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ReplyDeleteRelationships are hard to maintain because they require time and energy. It can be difficult to give a relationship the attention it needs because we are so busy. This is just one of the reasons people end up burning the bridges with people. This almost happened to me a couple years ago with one of friends. The relationship got to the point to where the bridge could have been burned, but I decided not to give up on the relationship and put forward a little more effort. I am glad I did because the kid is now my best friend.
ReplyDeleteI've ended up burning the bridges of people I was friends with in middle or younger mostly because I got to busy, and we drifted so far apart that it was awkward when we tried to talk to the eachother. The only time I haven't broken any bridges was after I graduated high school. I'm still close to my best friends from high school eventhough we don't hangout as much as we do. They are like family to me so I always make sure to keep our bond strength because I know they will always have my back no matter what.
ReplyDeleteWhen I had transitioned from middle school to high school, I lost touch with a lot of my friends. I had even begun to drift apart from the friends who went to the same high school as I did because they started making other friends. However, I reconnected with an old friend during my senior year and we began hanging out more often. We go to different universities but we stay close to each other and share a stronger connection now than we did before even high school. I may have burned many bridges with my other friends but I am glad that I took the time to rekindle this friendship.
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